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Patience


I know that everyone around the world feels differently about the whole Global Pandemic thing. "Live Free or Die" (I am looking at you New Hampshire). But in Vermont, we have taken the thing pretty seriously, done pretty well keeping out numbers fairly low, and in general showing care for those around us. And my family and I have been lucky, we have been able to severely limit our exposures by working from home - for a year. We have seen a few select close family and haven't eaten in a restaurant since early last March. All of this has been just as much out of concern that we could pass it on to someone as concern that we could get it ourselves, we have two twenty-somethings children with us, and we just wanted to do our very best for those around us. And now we are here.

We went out shopping yesterday. On a Saturday, where there were other people. A lot of them. I didn't see anyone who wasn't wearing a mask. And mostly being careful not to be too close. But, wow. I wasn't a big fan of crowds or other people before the pandemic. Now I feel like every "spidey sense" I have is on high alert! Danger! Danger Will Robinson!" We visited three shops, supported a lovely new wine shop and then happily left with a few new choices. You know what? We all felt a little overwhelmed, a little skittish, and were actually pretty tired out when it was over. I don't think we are alone, and I think that while some folks dismiss the pandemic, others take it seriously and may be left with a bit of trauma trying to reacclimatize to the world. So, I have a plan for me.


Here is my list for the next few weeks:

1. Go OUT once a week (at least). Not including the grocery store.

2. Find at least one stranger to speak to, a nice one, start with a shop assistant.

3. Treat yourself at the end of the outing. New jeans? (I need them!) A cup of coffee from my fave shop? YES!

4. Remember to be kind and gentle to yourself. Appreciate your work, tell yourself. "You did great today! You talked to that nice person, you stood in line, you are doing so well." And remind those around you.

5. Occasionally dream about how lovely it will be to sit in a crowded coffee shop, or go to a concert, or eat inside a restaurant, or travel. It will happen.


Happy Sunday all!

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Donna
Donna
19 avr. 2021

I can relate so very much. We have been very much the same about staying home staying safe. Going out is overwhelming now. I hate crowds and actively stay away from the supermarket except at quiet time. I haven't been "proper" shopping yet. It's interesting to see how different countries, but also counties within countries have adopted rules.

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Rosemary D'Elia
19 avr. 2021
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Yep, slowly slowly and doing just what is needed. And so many places are still fighting the worst of it. Slowly, patience, and grace.

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Ann Lally
Ann Lally
19 avr. 2021

I saw a meme, can't remember where now, that this whole pandemic has caused everyone to have a trauma response, which are still in! This actually helped me too be more gentle with myself arpeopley comfort level with being around people.


I like your idea of just showing to one person a day; most people are desperate for some connection I think. I know I am.

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Rosemary D'Elia
19 avr. 2021
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I hope more people can be gentle with themselves and those around them!! Maybe that will be a silver lining if this mess.

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Forgotten Muse
18 avr. 2021

We have only visited the grocery store to actually get our own stuff in the last couple of months. But still we are extremely cautious. And we are exhausted at the end of a trip too. Especially if we've packed a few important errands into the day and the odd frivolous one too. It's so frustrating that people can't do something so simple to protect others or their own loved ones.

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Rosemary D'Elia
19 avr. 2021
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Amen.

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Amy Allman Sorensen
Amy Allman Sorensen
18 avr. 2021

I've only been doing takeout at restaurants that will do drive-by pick up, but yesterday I discovered my favorite Mexican restaurant is no longer during curbside. I was surprised by my stress response at going inside a restaurant and having people around me. Doesn't help that Utah has NOT been great about mask wearing...I was almost full-blown panicked by the time I got the food and got out. (I'm not normally panicked/anxious.) I'm not sure if *everyone* is feeling this but it's definitely here for me. I like your plan of slowly easing back!

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Rosemary D'Elia
18 avr. 2021
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I know in one part of my brain that it’s ok, but there is another part that is 😱🥵😬!

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Effy Wild
Effy Wild
18 avr. 2021

I love the way you are planning on gently easing back in. That seems really wise to me. <3

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